Brave New World: Facing the Unfamiliar for Friendships’ Sake


Posted on November 2nd, by risser in Sadia Aurna. 1 Comment

Have you ever felt an emptiness in your heart that you’re not sure how to fill? I’ve felt it many times after coming here to Findlay. I’ve had moments when I’ve felt I am all alone. In those moments, my thoughts go to my friends back home who loved me every day of my life. They made me feel protected and so special. In coming to Findlay, I worried that I wouldn’t have friends because I am different from so many other UF students. But I can proudly say that I do have friends now. If I can do it, then you can do it too, trust me! I believe if you want something, then the universe also tries to get that thing to you. It’s walking on that path every day.

Here are some things that have helped me to make new friends at Findlay:

First, go out of your comfort zone and meet new people who might not have the same perspective about life as you. Often, people make friends from within their own comfort zones, like students who only hang out with students from their own country, or the athlete who only hangs out with members of their team. That’s no way to broaden your perspective or your collection of friends! I’m thankful for my diverse group of friends from all over the world that nudge me out of my comfort zone!

 

Second, try to be as open as you can. Try to be a person without prejudice! Sometimes we generalize people based on social prejudice. That’s not at all helpful to find that one friend who will understand you and will be your strength when you’re in need. So give people a chance. Don’t judge them by certain preconceived notions.

Third, don’t feel sad thinking that everyone around you has a big group of friends and you don’t have any! Everybody’s journey is different. With friends, quality matters more than quantity. When it’s your time, you will find that one friend who may be the biggest source of hope in your life. So wait patiently and work for it.

 

Fourth, get out of the classroom and do things that you like. We have almost a hundred active clubs at our university. When you get involved in a group, there is a high chance of finding people you can connect with. And you never know when an activity might introduce you to someone who could become a lifelong friend.

 

Finally, please be yourself. Sometimes in frustration and despair, we try to change ourselves to fit in a certain group. But trust me when I say these friendships never last long. True friends will accept us for who we are, and if there’s a problem, they tell us to our face, not behind our backs. Being your true self attracts the best kind of friends.

 

 





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